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Dating Apps Suck And Maybe That’s Okay
Why I deleted all of my apps and how I’ll just focus on myself
If you read one of my latest posts, where I think I might have broken up with my long term relationship during a manic episode, things weren’t going well for a while. It’s been almost two years and I’ve tried to move past things, but it’s come at a cost to my mental health.
I’ve tried all the apps — Bumble, Tinder, Hinge, OkCupid, and even some of the new ones like Boo that might help me find someone who could be a long term companion. I’ve probably downloaded and deleted most of the apps about 3–4 times over this time and there’s a few things I’ve learned. What I wanted to find was someone to spend time with, but I’ve always ended up rejecting them. The dating pool has been interesting and the conversations have been…something else. Sometimes people can really be terrible but they haven’t all been that way. What are my thoughts about dating apps after all this time?
They all suck, they really all suck. At least, that’s what I think while I delete them, until a few months later when I re-download them.
But after almost two years, is it just me? Now that I’ve deleted all of them for what might be the final time, what have I learned? What are things I can take from these experiences and learn about myself?
