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Do I need therapy for my sober life?
Finding out who I am at 31.
At some point, you have to be honest about things that can happen when you go sober. And it’s not something that people spend a lot of time talking about unless it’s positive.
What if you don’t know who you are now that you’re deep in sobriety?
Waking up on time, working out, not being hungover; those are all the great benefits of being sober. I’m grateful that I get to wake up on the weekend and drink coffee instead of nursing a hangover. I wouldn’t be sitting here writing if I hadn’t taken that first step. It was always a pipe dream for me that I could write at all, much less write anything that people would find interesting. Being sober gives you the chance to really find out who you are.
Except I now have a dilemma. What if you don’t know who you are now that you’re deep in sobriety? The entire range of my life that I would have spent growing into myself and learning more about me was with a bottle of alcohol.
As of today, I’m at 161 days sober and most of those days I don’t even think about alcohol. There are changes that have happened in me though that as each day passes, I’m not able to ignore.
It’s hard to talk about it with my partner because there’s no way he can understand what I’m going through. He didn’t stop…
