I understand what you’re saying and with what I’m assuming your mindset comes from, I agree. If I did something while I was drunk, it was me who did it and I can’t blame it on alcohol even if I wanted to. Quitting drinking won’t make me extroverted or suddenly be amazing at math.

This is what I mean — But if you spent the years that would have been spent really developing… as a person drinking everything away, it’s hard to feel aligned with yourself. Instead of finding new hobbies, I would drink the days away with no regard to the future. So I didn’t in fact really take the time to get to know who I am at a deeper level.

So I think you’re being really simple in the thinking that it’s a problem I want to get to know myself better now that I’m sober. Please have kindness for other people and compassionate for their struggles.