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My Partner Still Drinks When I’m Sober, Is That Okay?
It really depends on how much and what you can handle.
I have to admit, when I first went sober I thought my partner would join in. Not only because of the temptation that would happen to me, but also because it’s healthier to have a sober lifestyle. It seemed to be an obvious choice to me for him to quit as well as I had already tried multiple times and had failed to last longer than a couple of days.
It took a while but I finally understood that though I wanted him to be sober as well to help me out, it was completely unfair to him to need that. He had not been struggling for the entire time like I had been, he really could stop whenever he wanted to. When I realized that, I made sobriety all about me, with no regard to how he was drinking, and I tried to be understanding when he would drink.
He was one of those people that I would never understand, the elusive moderate drinker, the very thing I wanted to be for the entire time I drank. I had thought about our situation for a while and realized any scenario where he would go sober with me would be forcing him to do something he didn’t feel passionate about.
But my situation might not be yours so these are the questions I asked myself about his habits that led to my eventual conclusion…
