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Would My Younger Self Love Who I Became?

Kelly Tompkins
4 min readOct 15, 2022

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I am everything younger me would have hated.

Photo by Melyna Valle on Unsplash

When you were young, did you get this idea in your head about what an adult is? I thought thirty was old, and that any useful thing I would do or have done would have been in my very early twenties. Maybe it was a product of the timeline my parents had for me, but I thought I would have completed all major life events by twenty five and by thirty, I’d be settled in.

Well, as a thirty-four year old, I can tell you that everything I thought about my future was wrong. And who I thought I’d be — I’m the nightmare of younger me. As the years go on though, I find that I love everything that current me as going for me. So what’s different?

I’m not married

In fact, I’m single. Having been in a relationship that started in my late 20s and ended in my mid 30s, younger me would have been devastated that I had such a long relationship that didn’t end in marriage. I was so sure when I was younger that I already had a plan developed for when I would get married. It’d be no later than 27 and ideally, I’d be settled down in a house with a husband by then.

At 34, it’s a different picture. I’m past my previous plan’s deadline which I’m okay with, and not only that, I also came out as bisexual a few years ago and have explored my…

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Kelly Tompkins
Kelly Tompkins

Written by Kelly Tompkins

Austin,Texas sober girl. Lover of horror movies, cats, and fitness. Occasional bad poet.

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